
I recently had quite an appalling experience at the ordering counter of a popular pizza joint in my neighborhood. While I was waiting in queue to place my order on a not so busy day, two other gents walked in, first a man in his 50s and second a young lad in his 20s. First, the older guy cut the queue by sticking out a hundred rupee note and rattling off his order ahead of everyone else in the queue. No sooner than this happened, the younger guy started placing his order, also breaking the queue. This time I lost it, I put my foot down and demanded that the lady at the counter take the orders as per the queue and also gave her a bit of my mind. Of late I have been observing that the civic sense in our city has taken a sharp nosedive. There seems to be a clear deterioration in the way we conduct ourselves in public and also the way in which we treat each other; there is an apparent sense of disrespect and utter disregard for fellow human beings. It comes as no surprise that Mumbai has been rated as the worst city on a survey conducted by Reader’s Digest on the world’s rudest cities.
Few of my pet peeves are:
1. Shabby road conduct: People showing utter disregard for other vehicles at toll gates and trying to cut right into the queue especially during busy hours. This is such a disgusting and dangerous act as it not only spites other vehicle owners but also seriously compromises their safety. Not to mention other frequent violations like unnecessary speeding, dangerous lane cutting and weaving through traffic, incessant honking and not yielding to pedestrians.
2. Poor conduct in public places: At shopping malls, cinema halls, airports, fast-food joints, virtually everywhere, we get to see chaos and total breakdown of orderliness. It seems like people don’t understand the meaning of the word ‘Queue’. Most painful of them all is the ruckus that people create while clearing customs at Mumbai airport. The twenty five queues converging into one is quite a sight to see! Imagine the kind of first impression of ourselves that we are creating in the minds of tourists visiting our country.
3. Littering at will: There seems to be a complete disregard for the need to keep public places clean and tidy. On a recent visit to a multiplex, I noticed in the restroom that people throw used tissues everywhere else except in the garbage bin. I also noticed this behavior in the mall near my apartment; there is a famous ice cream joint which draws huge crowds almost every day of the week. At the end of the day you would invariably see huge debris of ice cream cups littered all over the place, a truly appalling sight.
4. Poor Elevator Etiquettes: Another annoying behavior is people waiting for an elevator at crowded places showing utter disregard for those in front of them and making the dash for it by breaking the queue acting like thorough numb-nuts!
How we conduct ourselves in public places reflects how we are as a nation. We seem to have completely forgotten that we share our space with many others and that we must adhere to certain basic etiquettes while in public places. We demonstrate complete disregard to (whatever little) efforts the government is taking to improve the infrastructure in our city. With the metro rail system coming up in Mumbai, I can’t bear to think about its fate a couple of years after its launch. We don’t seem to understand the importance of conserving such valuable assets and handing them down to future generations.
While our lack of civic sense has always been my pet peeve, my feeling of irritation and anger has peaked after my recent experiences in the States. I have seen in the US that people do not break traffic lights even at 2 in the morning, but I have seen my countrymen break signals at will even in broad daylight. Why is this disparity? I would not only castigate our people for such flouts but also the lack of effective deterrents. The inefficiency of our law enforcement system in curbing such violations is a major contributor. While in the US, people live in constant fear of getting on the wrong side of the law due to severe fines, penalties and lawsuits, our blokes can get away with virtually any civil disobedience for a minor rap on the knuckles or a pittance of a bribe.
While the nouveau-riche Indian middle class seems to be taken with the glitz and glamour of urbanization driven by our free market economy, the responsibilities associated with these trappings seem to be woefully missing. We have been so hard wired in our live-and-let-die mentality that it is going to take a Herculean effort to change our attitude, thinking and behavior. Ignorance and lack of training at a proper age is the root cause of this problem. The current day youth and middle age population has never been sensitized to the virtues of good civic sense and seems to lack the slightest inkling of what being a Good Samaritan really means.
As India is at the inflection point of global leadership, we need to make a conscious attempt to change our thinking and behavior. We must ingrain these virtues into our next generation right from a very young impressionable age. Schools should include civic sense as a mandatory subject part of their syllabus and inculcate the importance of virtues such as not littering, being nice to strangers, holding doors for others, and respecting those ahead of us in the queue and not forgetting to thank someone for rendering a service. Though these are simple qualities but they will take us a long way in our quest for development.
There must also be consequences for violations. Civic bodies must take it upon themselves to discipline people by imposing fines for littering and dirtying public places. There must be a dedicated cell run by the traffic police to bring violators to books. This can be done through simple mechanism such as a toll free number where one can call and register a complaint by identifying the violator by their license plate number.
If India must become a super power and lead the way for other nations to follow, then it is time for us to take these seemingly ephemeral virtues to heart, make them part of our culture and hand them down to our children as an heirloom. Though I am bullish about India and betting on the Indian growth story, I am painfully aware of the writing on the wall: India will never be truly great if we don’t cure these fundamental ailments. If we Indians don’t get our act together and stop behaving like juveniles, India’s growth would remain all but stunted. This would serve as a painful reminder of what a great nation we could have been if only we had got our act together in time, the very thought of which makes me shudder!


